Trigger Warning: This article contains mentions of suicide and domestic abuse.
Kimberly Rochelle and TJ Goswami of 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way Season 5 claim they are “growing through disagreements,” nearly two weeks after reportedly calling it quits.
As The Ashley previously reported, TJ recently revealed on social media that he and his wife had parted ways before going on to shut down his Instagram account.
In response to TJ’s now-deleted post, Kimberly made multiple post to social media the following day regarding the split and in a live video, she detailed the arguments the two had been having as of late, including one incident in which TJ allegedly threatened to kill himself and another when TJ allegedly punched her in the face and she hit him back in response.
Despite the disturbing allegations made in her video, Kimberly went on to release a lengthy video to her YouTube channel on Wednesday in which she and TJ provided a “relationship update” to fans, claiming they were “growing through disagreements.”
(While Kimberly posted the joint video on Wednesday, it’s unclear when it was recorded.)
In the description for the video, Kimberly told viewers she and TJ “had a slight argument,” but that “all in all, it was for the better.”
“ … I think that it really helped that you and I were able to figure out who we are and therefore bring ourselves as a couple together,” she said to TJ in the video, who went on to call their relationship “a learning process.”
While Kimberly had been living with her husband and his family in India, she claimed in the description of her video that she is currently in the United States and that she and TJ “agree that separating temporarily is the best action to take in the long run.” She also stated that being in India “doesn’t make sense right now,” and she hopes that while she’s away from TJ, “he’ll be able to concentrate on the things he finds important”– including himself, she said.
“ … Marriage isn’t a short-term thing, it’s a long game,” she wrote. “Kind of like my life and probably yours, too. Just because things work one way for one couple doesn’t mean it’s the best course of action for another. We’re trying to make this work … .”
In the video, Kimberly said that, despite being married for two years, she and TJ still consider themselves to be “newlyweds,” with TJ adding that they are currently in a “transition phase” of their relationship and have “a lot of things to take care of,” including their families and their future as a couple.
Despite their arguments, Kimberly and TJ both seemed against the idea of getting a divorce.
“Arguments are always going to happen,” Kimberly stated. “Arguments are a part of every relationship– healthy relationships, toxic relationships, arguments will happen.”
“I think arguments are far better than ditching someone,” TJ added. “ … It’s better to have a fight and argument and just settle down and not talking to each other for two days rather than replacing [someone].”
Kimberly went on to claim that her and TJ’s arguments have “built a good foundation” for their relationship.
“They keep us on our path, they keep us understanding what we feel like is important,” she said. “You know what’s important to me, I know what’s important to you, and with that information we can move [forward] together.”
Watch Kimberly and TJ’s full relationship update video below.
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(Photos: YouTube; Instagram)
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She is extremely toxic and abusive. She needs to do a lot of work on herself before she can have any relationship with anyone. She’s manipulative and very aggressive when she doesn’t get her way and acts like a spoiled brat. I hope he gets away from him she will just drag him down
Arguments and disagreements are normal. Abuse, control and manipulation are not. I don’t know much about TJ or his personality but Kimberly was abusive towards TJ on the show. I will never understand why he married her. Neither seemed happy then or now. And if this is their “newlywed phase” then I don’t even want to see how much more toxic their relationship will be as time passes on.
Agreed! I do feel sad that there seems to be a message of “all couples fight” that extremely toxic couples like to talk about without realizing there’s a difference between an argument and domestic violence.