Catelynn Lowell says she doesn’t regret placing her daughter Carly for adoption in 2009; however, the Teen Mom star says she does regret who she picked as Carly’s parents.
As The Ashley has previously reported, Catelynn and her husband Tyler Baltierra have been speaking out against Carly’s parents, Brandon and Teresa Davis, since last year. In September, Cate and Ty amped up their social media posts about the Davises when the North Carolina couple blocked them and essentially cut off contact between them and Carly. In multiple social media posts, Lives and media interviews, Ty and Cate have also blasted the premise of adoption, detailing how they feel they were taken advantage of as teens.
In a new interview with E! News, Catelynn said she would not choose Brandon and Teresa again if she could redo things.
“I would make different decisions with my choice,” Catelynn told the news outlet.
Catelynn gave specific reasons as to why she would not allow Brandon and Teresa to adopt Carly, if she could do things over.
“I definitely would have picked a couple in Michigan,” Catelynn said, adding that Brandon and Teresa’s initial desire to have a closed adoption should have been something that took them out of the running to be Carly’s parents. (Although they weren’t looking for an open or semi-open adoption initially, Brandon and Teresa eventually agreed to the open adoption, with the understanding that they had the right to “close” it at any time.)
“I would have picked a couple that wanted fully open adoption from the get-go,” Catelynn said. “So, there’s things in my decision that I would have changed.”
Despite this, Catelynn told E! that she does not regret placing Carly for adoption.
“I think that I would have made the same choice, because I feel like it took her away from a lot of the traumas and things that I was going through growing up, that she shouldn’t have to go through,” Catelynn said.
She does, however, regret not getting herself a lawyer before going through with the adoption, as she was only 16 at the time.
“No adult stepped in to say, ‘Hey, this is what this means,'” Catelynn said. “Everybody just threw papers at me as a literal child, and I had to just sign them, not knowing what I was signing.
“…people need to know, if you’re making a decision for your child, these are things that they can struggle with,” Catelynn said later in the interview. “And I wasn’t told any of that, so I feel blindsided by a lot of it as I’m getting older. It’s just really hard.”
Like Catelynn, Tyler has also expressed regret about choosing Brandon and Teresa as Carly’s parents. During a Live in September, Tyler stated that what he would do differently.
“I would not have gone through an [adoption] agency and I would have picked different parents,” Tyler said. “That’s just the truth.”
“I would have probably spent more time with the parents that we chose,” Tyler added. “We tried to ask [our adoption counselor] Dawn if we could visit at a park and get to know them…that didn’t happen. But at 16, you just kind of listen to the adults. They’re saying, ‘no, this is how it works…’
“For me, I don’t regret placing her, I still believe it was the right thing,” he said. “Me and Cate were in chaos. I don’t regret it, I just regret how I did it and who I did it with.”
While Tyler regrets placing Carly with Brandon and Teresa, he did acknowledge on X in September that they have done a good job raising Carly.
“But I don’t ever want her to resent her parents! I firmly believe that they are good parents & I will always be grateful to them for that,” he wrote. “I just hope her parents give her the right tools, resources & education that she deserves to know in regards to her own healing process. Adoptees have their own unique journey when it comes to facing the trauma that inevitably comes with that unique experience. All I want is for Carly to know the truth & have all of the facts. She deserves that!”
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Catelynn and Tyler will be discussing their problems with Carly’s parents a lot on the upcoming season of Teen Mom: The Next Chapter, which premieres Thursday on MTV.
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At this point, Cate and Tyler are digging themselves into a deeper hole from which there is no coming back. The latest comment made publicly is something neither of them can ever walk back. It is one thing to send an annual gift with an “ I love you” note, it’s a whole other to bad-mouth this young woman’s parents on every public platform that will have you.
In a surprise to almost no one, Catelynn doubled down on the stupid. Good grief, just leave those people alone that were nice enough to raise her when you wouldn’t/couldn’t. Glad you got to play with horses though.
She doubles down the stupid every time so she’s at about ^64 at this point
Of course Cate would like a couple that let her and Tyler walk all over them and expose their family’s privacy. Luckily for Carly, they chose Brandon and Theresa so she was raised like a normal kid in a normal, loving, healthy environment.
Cate and Tyler should thank their lucky stars for them because any other couple would have block them as soon as Carly turned 5 and their agreement expired.
Translation: They would choose a couple that would have adopted them too and taken care of Carly physically and financially while they let Tyler and Catelynn use her to play house when they felt like it.
Sidenote: I’m their age and I remember watching the episode when it first aired and having no problem whatsoever understanding the agreement and what everything meant. I feel like it was all explained pretty well to them, they’re just trying to rewrite history.
Ahhh yes, comments like this are a great way to get B&T to unblock you and resume lines of communication…. 🙄🙄🙄
I think it’s very telling that in the beginning when C&T were adoptions advocates everyone praised them for being so mature and sacrificing for their child. But now, when they acknowledge that this isn’t what they expected and they wish they had more contact with B&T before the adoption and more information about it they get so much hate and are called selfish and immature. They are allowed to share the negative and the positive sides of adoption.
But they have created the negative side. That’s the problem. They openly and bluntly said that they would do and say whatever they want, refusing to respect B&T’s wishes to not be discussed on the show, not to have their personal texts read, not have pictures shared, etc.
They’re being called selfish because they are bashing the adoptive parents, completely rewriting history, and worst of all – exploiting Carly for money.
They aren’t doing that though…. C&T have said repeatedly that they are trying to minimize any trauma to Carly by being adopted. A lot of people are uneducated on traumas that can come with adoption which is what C&T have been speaking about. Their situation is different because they went on to get married and have 3 other children. They don’t want Carly to feel less than because they didn’t raise her but are raising her siblings. What they are doing is the exact opposite of selfish and the people who have looked into the effects adoption can have will know this. A lot of people spewing hate their way are looking at this like Carly is a puppy and not an actual human being and it’s crazy.
Brandon and Teresa have shown a lot of grace in this situation. They agreed to give Tyler and Catelynn way more liberties concerning Carly than they had to. It’s understandable why they chose to cut contact, all Tyler and Catelynn do is make demands on a child they have zero rights to. I still won’t be surprised if we hear about Tyler and Catelynn being served with NDA’s and restraining orders soon because they can’t shut their yaps about this stuff. The Baltierra megalomania is going to come back to bite them in their collective asses, just watch.
I’m in the minority. I don’t like Brandon and Teresa. It has nothing to do with the adoption situation. I just think they are like sticks in the mud. No personality.
Yikes. I feel bad for everyone involved. There is so much trauma here. I cannot imagine Carly will take well to dining out they wished she had different parents. I do feel for Catelynn and Tyler, they were in an impossible situation. I also think that Brandon and Theresa did not take lightly, the decision to cut them off. I feel like there had to be a lot of boundary crossing for that to have happened.
C & T are making things worse by talking bad about Carly’s adoptive parents. I know personally for me, if I was Carly and knew about how bad they are trashing B & T, I would not want anything to do with C & T. They are not too smart to go public with everything that is on their mind. They need to focus on the kids they have and leave poor Carly alone. You should be ashamed of yourselves!
Cate & Ty are no better than their trash bag parents. They had every single opportunity handed to h th em on a silver platter & fed to them on a silver spoon yet they squandered and gave it a big fuck-you. I used to feel sorry for Cate when she was younger & suffering abuse from her mom but now? No damn way. She’s doing the same shit to Carly that her own mother did to her, obviously ignoring the opportunity to break those generational curses. I hope Carly gives them the biggest ‘fuck off and leave me alone’ she can muster.
This miserable woman just needs to stop talking about this situation publicly. If the adoptive parents are so terrible I’m sure she will hear from her daughter in a couple years when she’s 18. Until then let her live her life in peace.
Cate seems to forget that Tyler did not want an open adoption and did not want a relationship with Carley.. they were perfectly happy with just photos and a call and maybe one visit a year initially… They also signed something saying they knew that visits could end at any time and that they were only guaranteed them for a certain number of years of Carley’s life and then after that it would have to be reassessed.
The living of this alternative reality that her and Ty are doing isn’t healthy.
If they didn’t choose BCS they wouldn’t have been put on MTV, if they went with not adoption, they wouldn’t have been picked for TM, if they have picked another couple things could have been better or so much worse. Some families would have not allowed their kids to go to C&T wedding if Butch and April were there because of their history. Let alone have Butch go up to Carley and tell this little girl that doesn’t know him that he’s her grandpa… um sir your a stranger. Another couple could have been milking it for MTV money or moved in with C&T and demanded they support them when they got more money. A lot of things could have happened, both great but also so terrible.
But that’s not reality… reality is you did pick B&T and now you have the situation you have. Now go from there.
Caitlin and Tyler act like Carly is a library book they just loaned out. Disgusting behavior by them.
These two have no idea how much grace Brandon and Theresa have extended to them. Most other adoptive couples probably would have closed the door a long time ago because this has never been about Brandon and Theresa wanting to close the adoption. This has always been about Cate and Tyler’s inability to maintain a functional, healthy relationship with anyone. They don’t have any idea how to do that. No clue how to respect people’s boundaries. No idea how to not be co-dependent. It’s sad that they blew their chance to be a part of Carly’s life. It’s worse that they keep digging themselves in deeper. But, this is on them.
The absolutely proof of this is Brandon and Theresa keeping the door open to their son’s bio-mom.
Yikes! I haven’t watched this show in many years. Is that top pic what she looks like now?
She likes more like her mom aprils sister.
Hey way to endear themselves to Carly. I’m sure she’ll be so impressed by Catelynn and Tyler saying they wish she would’ve had different adoptive parents and their continuously trashing her parents who raised her and gave her a good life.
From what I’ve picked up on here, they’ve always done the opposite of what they should have done to improve the relationship.
When are these half wits going to realize they are in this situation because of their actions and constant need to disregard the safety net Carly’s parents have put in place. The safety net is now needed BECAUSE of C&T! You are the problem, not Carly’s parents! Good grief.
Exactly! She said she regretted not having an attorney back then, but that is their own fault. They like to blame others for everything.
Cait any Ty are gonna be even more pissed off and upset when Carly turns 18 and still wants nothing to do with them.
This is what constantly indulging your child looks like in adulthood.
These 2 have clearly never been told “no” in their entire lives.
They’ve never had consequences, never had to live with results of their decisions.
This podcast is going to be more of this needless bitching. Just like these interviews and undoubtedly this upcoming TM season.
What a life.
Oh and Cate? You’re aging like April. I honestly thought that picture of her, was you.
Carly is not a little kid anymore. She is pretty close to being an actual adult and probably made this decision on her own. They’re in deep denial, it’s a defense mechanism. They never healed or let this adoption go, how could they? Their entire life, their jobs ect all revolve around this adoption.. they have never truly moved on or let go and they’re embarrassing themselves. It’s pure delusion.
Leaving everything else aside, I do agree that it was unwise to choose a couple who was against an open adoption initially and became okay upon learning that they could close it.
I do not fault B&T for feeling this way – makes perfect sense to me why one would not want a scenario where the open adoption has to be honored no matter what.
That said, if open adoption was important to C&T, makes sense to me not to go for a couple who made it clear from the jump they may want to close it.
Can’t say I blame B&T for closing the adoption. Just saying that, realistically, it wouldn’t have made sense to me to choose them under the above scenario.
I think any couple would have closed them adoption because Cait & Ty act like the parents are just babysitters. They feel they should be able to have constant communication & should be able to see Carly when they want. She might be involved in sports or some other activity or her brother might that limits time.
Not just babysitters, but also forced sidekicks on their TV show and topics for their clickbait tweets. If either of them had ever gotten a damned job and they didn’t act like the main characters in their own little world, they would probably still be in contact with them.
C&T have never treated them like babysitters that’s wild to say. They want B&T to stick to the agreement that was made when Carly was adopted. They agreed to yearly visits initiated by Tyler. B&T have denied those visits on multiple years which is what started this whole mess. B&T are the ones who broke the adoption agreement and went back on their word not C&T.
Another couple would have cut them off a long time ago.